He would talk about it but he didn't want to look at it. He still doesn't like looking at it, but it seems more tolerable now. Colostomies are typically emptied a handful of times throughout the day. So, it's hard to ignore it for too long. Bennett doesn't really mind if people know he has one, but he is protective to not show them what it looks like, for fear that they wouldn't want to see something gross.
This may be a good thing considering all privacy goes out the window when you have a little sister. When a babysitter recently walked in the front door to babysit, Avonlea immediately began sharing that Bennett has "a bag right 'here' that the poop goes in." It was really funny to listen to our 3 year old explain Bennett's colostomy. She definitely understands how it works.
For me, caring for Bennett's colostomy is probably easier than it might would have been had I not already had to care for an ostomy before. When Bennett was born very sick 7 years ago, he was taken in to immediate surgery and given an ileostomy (a colostomy and an ileostomy are basically the exact same thing except they are located in a different part of the intestines). I had a VERY hard time with this at first. But I felt God used the experience to humble me as a mother. My decision to accept my role as Bennett's mother then continues to remind me to accept my role with all that it entails now: http://www.initforbennett.com/2009/10/this-is-why-i-didnt-go-into-nursing.html
...in every fun fabric Bennett could love!!! Inside the green package, Bennett found Batman covers and Spiderman covers and Star Wars covers and lego/Robot covers! Covers galore! The covers made specifically for Bennett made our putting on a new colostomy that evening a lot of fun!
I am SO very grateful to Karen for her kindness - for the donation of her time, energy and materials - just to help make Bennett's colostomy a little less scary. She definitely accomplished that. He has absolutely loved them. He said that next morning, "I like to look down at my ostomy now. I think I'm going to see my bag but now I just see Star Wars!"
Karen makes beautiful clothing for little girls and boys, not colostomy bags. But she saw a little boy who could be blessed by her handiwork. I am so thankful to her for thoughtfulness!
"It's miserable and magical" as Taylor Swift sings in her song "22". That's how most of CF feels like. Thank you, Karen, for bringing the magical.